OIL SLICKS AND POT HOLES ...
Kelley got worn out jumping through all the hoops and running on all those treadmills in the religious world and the world at large. In my journey detoxing from religion, I have experienced anything from very legalistic, which tells you all the hoops you have to jump through or the treadmills to run on to be accepted by God. But the truth is He can never be more pleased with you when He put His Holy Spirit in you.
LEGALISM: Trying to obey all the commandments and do everything in your own --what you need to do to be accepted by God --focusing on your performance instead of Jesus's performance, thinking there is still something to do to win the love of God; to stay saved / be approved.
DEAD WORKS: anything you are trying to do to be accepted. Give to charity -- be a good person
SPIRITUAL DEAD WORKS: any kind of spiritual calestenics that you do to be approved by God.
DELIVERANCE
She went through deliverance ministries where cutting of the soul ties, a bible being pushed in the stomach demanding the name of a demon, renouncing the sins of ancestors, not realizing that deliverance was in the salvation package that Jesus paid for on the Cross. In 2019, she started getting the true Gospel and leaning the wonderful truth about the finished work of Christ which is a continuous life-long journey, and the goal of every believer is to get more rooted, and grounded and equipped in the death, burial, and resurrection of the true Gospel.
CHARISMANIA
If you ever heard the term, "God showed up" or if you ever thought to go chase a prophet to get a word, or if you've ever thought that people have special anointings, or if you've ever thought you had to go someplace else, or special lighting, or special music, etc., to get a touch from God, then you've missed the whole point ---the truth is learning how to connect with the Grace of God >>>>Power, Ability, Unmerited Favor, because the truth is YOU ARE COMPLETE IN CHRIST ----you are seated with Him and you are just as righteous as Jesus is if you have been washed in HIS Blood.
HEAVY SHEPHERDING
Under the guise of accountability, AKA: control and manipulation tactics, can't do anything without somebody's permission, can't think outside the box and get treated as being rebellious and getting shunned ..there's a spiritual hierarchy where the pastoral team is considered the elite and the people in the pews are considered subordinate.
Kelley knows first-hand -- she used to do "love gift bags to the women on the streets and in the clubs to show them God's Love. There was heavy shepherding in the cult and she was shunned and shamed for wanting to go outside the box and reach out. After 12 years of that, Kelley went to a spin-off church. She felt a little bit of freedom because of able to relate to the pastor who didn't want to come back to Madison, WI, who had the same zeal and excitement of God, was excited about Jesus also and who also had history of drugs and alcohol and she remembered asking God in that moment why no one was shaming and condemning him for having that excitement and shared similar experiences, ... why was there a difference....and in the very next breath, out of his mouth came the answer, he was able to get away and get mentored properly under a pastor who was able to bring out --unwrap the gifts in a loving environment not in a condemning shaming environment ---it makes all the difference ---it would have been better for her when she came out of the sex trafficking/stripper to have a welcoming--- building up instead of a tear down ...
In 2002, there was a woman pastor wanting my outreach to the women to be under her women's ministry. But she knew her from a previous church. Kelley said "no, it will take more than one woman's ministry, it will take a whole community of people helping these women. But because I knew her from the other church , "yikes" she is not having safe people on her team that could be trusted ...don't want the other women to go through what I went through with jumping hoops and running treadmills and being mistreated as survivor of the sex-trafficking/stripper industry. I didn't want to be part of the 'shooters of the wounded."